How Should We Respond to Gay Marriage? Like Jesus.

A few days ago the Supreme Court of the United States of America ruled that gay marriage will now be legalized in all fifty states. I think this was surprising to no one. We all knew it was coming, but the announcement revealed just how polarized our nation has become. Some celebrate it as a great victory for civil rights while others lament it as a sign of our nation’s moral depravity. For bible-believing Christians, the question is, what do we do now? How do we respond and how do we do it like Jesus?

Why We Must Speak

Some argue that we shouldn’t care at all, that we shouldn’t speak. Some think this ruling will not affect us and so we should just be silent and go about our business, keeping our opinions to ourselves but this most certainly does affect us. It is not just that our nation does not hold to biblical Christian values. It is that it is becoming increasingly anti-Christian and hostile to those who hold biblical world views. Already, Christian bakeries have been forced to go out of business because they did not want to participate in a gay wedding. So, it is naive to think that gay marriage will exist in some kind of a vacuum and have no effect on religious rights.

But how it will affect us is not the main reason we must speak about gay marriage. None of this is ultimately about us. Sin is ultimately about God. Marriage is ultimately about God. If our choices only had horizontal results, how they affect others, then I suppose the general rule of thumb would be as long as it makes you happy and doesn’t hurt anyone else, it’s fine. Indeed, this seems to be the general moral philosophy of our day. However, I would say that the other and more important aspect of our choices is a vertical one. Our sin is against God. It dishonors the holiness of God and that is why Christians simply cannot be silent.

Jesus held to every word of scripture. Jesus zealously defended the holiness of God. Jesus never altered His views or message to make it more culturally palatable. Jesus did not fear the scorn and derision of man. He had one authority. He lived to please one Person and so should we (Galatians 1:10).

Why We Must Grieve

To see sin embraced and celebrated this way should break our hearts because we know what sin does and where it leads. Satan is a master deceiver. He promises joy, happiness, satisfaction, fulfillment, peace, but he ultimately comes to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10). Many are blinded. Many are in bondage.

Jesus wept over Jerusalem because it was not willing to turn to Him and find peace. Just as he said to Jerusalem, Jesus says to America, “How often I have longed to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, but you were not willing! (Luke 13:34). Our nation is in reckless rebellion against God. It grieves the heart of Christ and it should grieve our hearts too.

Why We Must Not Fear

I think a lot of Christians now feel a sense of panic and fear. We fear persecution. We fear for our children and the world they will grow up in, but let’s be reminded of the God we serve. He is not surprised. He is not worried. He didn’t wait for the Supreme Court decision and then think, “Darn, what do I do now?” Our God is sovereign over all. The Lord is in His heaven. Jesus is on His throne.

“Have you not known? Have you not heard? Has it not been told you from the beginning? Have you not understood from the foundations of the earth? It is He who sits above the circle of the earth, and its inhabitants are like grasshoppers, who stretches out the heavens like a curtain and spreads them out like a tent to dwell in. He brings the princes to nothing; He makes the judges of the earth useless (Isaiah 40:21-23).”

Let us lift our gaze to our mighty God. Let us “lift up our voice with strength, lift it up and be not afraid (Isaiah 40:9)” and say to the people, “Behold your God!” He is greater than any ruler. We should not fear man or circumstances, but look to the God who is more powerful and supreme than any supreme court here on earth.

Persecution may come, but if it does, “Dear friends, do not be surprised at the painful trial you are suffering, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice that you participate in the sufferings of Christ, so that you may be overjoyed when his glory is revealed. If you are insulted because of the name of Christ, you are blessed, for the Spirit of glory and of God rests on you” (1 Peter 4:12). We must remember that nothing happens to us outside of the will of the loving and sovereign God who works all things for His glory and our good(Romans 8:28). This should also cause us to remember that this world is not our home, but we are “looking forward to the city with foundations, whose architect and builder is God” (Hebrews 11:10).

Why We Must Preach the Gospel

In many ways, nothing has really changed. The world is still the world. We are still the Church and our calling is still the same, to “go into all the world and preach the good news to all creation” (Mark 16:15). I think we must resolve along with Paul, “to know nothing among you except Jesus Christ and Him crucified” (1 Corinthians 2:2). We must be careful not to proclaim our own self-righteousness, but Christ’s righteousness. We must fight having an “us and them” mentality, but remember the only thing that distinguishes us from them is the grace of God. We have to cling to the Gospel, the whole Gospel, and be sure that it is the message we send to the world. If we declare sin, let us also be sure to declare grace for “where sin abounded, grace abounded much more (Romans 5:20).” Sin is abounding in our nation, but there is more than enough grace through the Gospel of Jesus Christ.

We have been recipients of this amazing grace and now we are called to be “ambassadors for Christ” (2 Corinthians 2:20). To preach this Gospel is our one task (Acts 20:24) and to be like Christ as we do it should be our greatest ambition. And how did He do it? Think of how He spoke to the woman at the well. He boldly told her her sins without fear of giving offense and also lovingly and freely offered her living water so that she would never thirst again (John 4:6-14). To the woman caught in adultery, He cast no stones, but He did commission her, not to go and keep on sinning, but to “go and sin no more (John 8:11).”

Jesus loved even when it was offensive. He loved when it was costly. He loved when it hurt. He loved perfectly and effectively. On our own, we fall so short of this perfect love, but He lives in us and He will love through us. What an opportunity we now have to be the hands and feet of Jesus, to be light in the darkness. What an opportunity we have to love as He loves and not as the world does. So, let’s do it. Let’s cling fiercely to the truth of His word and proclaim boldly the grace of His Gospel.

33 thoughts on “How Should We Respond to Gay Marriage? Like Jesus.

  1. I think it is time you get over it. It won’t affect you in any way. Everyone understands that all you want to do is get on your blog and make yourself heard. You seem to forget that this country was in no way founded on your biblical views. Again, this country was founded by those who were fleeing religious persecution, from those who were trying to force their beliefs on them, just as you and many other Christians try to do today. In case you have forgotten, the bible also says that God gives you free will. This alone should tell you to drop it and let it go. You live in a country that affords its citizens a freedom of and freedom from religion. If you can’t handle that, maybe you should move to a country where Christianity is the one and only religion. Except, you won’t find one.
    The best thing you can do is live and let live. If you want to be respected, then you need to learn how to respect others regardless of their religion or lack there of. Celebrate your own life and live for God and dont worry about what others are doing in theirs. Because it has nothing to do with you.

    • She literally explained in the first paragraph explicitly why she should not and cannot look blindly at this, and why it will affect her in very clear terms. Did you not read the article?

    • Rodney, what you seem to not understand is that Emma is not addressing Americans, but Christians. She’s giving advice from one Christian (her) to other Christians. Since you are not Christian, her post is not relevant to you or others outside the church. I’m sure she welcomes you in reading her blog, but please do not feel she is telling you or others outside the church what you should do.

  2. That was a respectful and loving commentary.I don’t believe for one instant that you are trying to force others to the Christian POV but you are giving solid guidance to those of us who already share those views. Thank you.

  3. Rodney, you are right when you state that God gives us a free will. Your free will is to reject God and His Word.The one who wrote this blog also has a free will to believe what the Bible says is true. You state that gay marriage does not affect us. You are wrong. Sin affects God first. That is why He sent His only begotten Son to die for you. He loves you even though you don’t believe in Him. Sin also affects every one else because we have to live with the consequences like this Supreme Court decision. It affects our religious freedom and the next generation that will come to know Gay marriage as normal and acceptable. This is a defiant offense to a Holy God.

    Another false statement that you made is that this country was not founded on Biblical principles. No one can deny that many of the founding fathers of the United States of America were men of deep religious convictions based in the Bible and their Christian faith in Jesus Christ. Of the 56 men who signed the Declaration of Independence, nearly half (24) held seminary or Bible school degrees.

    These Christian quotes of the founding fathers will give you an overview of their strong moral and spiritual convictions which helped form the foundations of our nation and our government.

    Rodney you state that we need to respect other beliefs if we in return want to be respected. Because we live in America we all have a right to free speech. We do respect your beliefs but we also do not think you respect ours. There is no self righteous speech in this blog. It is her beliefs. If you don’t agree with it then don’t read it. Live your life due to your free will and we will live ours. But don’t criticize us for voicing our beliefs.

    In closing, God loves you Rodney and desires for you to know Him. Jesus died so that you can be forgiven and have everlasting life with Him. You may scoff and think this is a fairy tale but let me ask you a question. What if I am right with believing that Jesus is the only way to salvation and eternal life? I pray Rodney that you come to know Jesus as your Lord & Savior.

    • Who said I didn’t believe in God? You have no idea what my beliefs are. You are the one that is wrong about this country being a Christian nation. I wil have you 5 reasons:
      1. The Text of the Constitution Does Not Say the United States Is a Christian Nation
      If a Christian nation had been the intent of the founders, they would have put that in the Constitution, front and center. Yet the text of the Constitution contains no references to God, Jesus Christ, or Christianity. That document does not state that our country is an officially Christian nation.
      2. The Founders’ Political Beliefs Would Not Have Led Them to Support the Christian-Nation Idea
      Key founders such as James Madison and Thomas Jefferson opposed mixing church and state. They would never have supported an officially Christian nation.
      3. The Key Founders Were Not Conservative Christians and Likely Would Not Have Supported an Officially Christian Nation

      To hear the religious Right tell it, men such as George Washington, John Adams, Thomas Jefferson, and James Madison were eighteenth-century versions of Jerry Falwell in powdered wigs and stockings. This is nonsense.

      4. Shortly After the Constitution Was Ratified, Conservative Ministers Attacked It Because It Lacked References to Christianity

      Ministers of the founding period knew that the Constitution didn’t declare the United States officially Christian—and it made them angry.

      5. During the Post-Civil War Period, a Band of Politically Powerful Pastors Tried Repeatedly to Amend the U.S. Constitution to Add References to Jesus Christ and Christianity

      Nineteenth-century ministers knew that the Constitution was secular and that the nation was not officially Christian. They sought to remedy that through an amendment that would have rewritten the preamble to the Constitution.

      The drive was led by the National Reform Association (NRA), a kind of early religious Right organization that sought an officially Christian America. This NRA had ambitious goals. It sought laws curtailing commercial activity on Sunday, mandating Protestant worship in public schools and censorship of material deemed sexually explicit or blasphemous. (Thanks to the NRA, freethought societies of this period often had difficulties mailing periodicals to supporters. The U.S. Postal Service was under constant siege by the NRA.)

      This last point provides the key to understanding the staying power of the Christian-nation myth. The myth’s origins go back not to the founding period but to a much different time in history—the post-Civil War era.

      During this period, the country came as close it ever would to being officially Christian. Many laws did reflect the tenets of that faith. For example, books, magazines, and even stage productions were banned if they were deemed insulting to the Christian faith. Protestant prayer and worship were common in many public schools. Laws curtailed Sunday commerce. Even the Supreme Court flirted with the Christian-nation concept in its infamous decision in the Holy Trinity case.
      The reason I commented on her blog was because she asked the question: How do we
      Respond to gay marriage?
      I was simply stating that she should just get over it. It has nothing to do with it or you or anyone else who doesn’t want to marry someone of the same sex. It has nothing to do with your lives. It’s not happening in your house, your bedroom or your church. So against, nothing to do with you. Simply put, it’s none of your business.

    • “Your free will is to reject God and His Word”

      With all due respect, you have proffered a false dichotomy. The choices are not limited to either accepting “God and His Word”, or rejecting “God and His Word”, as if someone does the latter thing by not doing the former. See, there’s actually another choice, which is rejecting the proposition the bible is the “Word” of any deity, and by extension, rejecting the bible because the “dos” and “don’ts” are then that of man, not a deity.

      “You state that gay marriage does not affect us. You are wrong. Sin affects God first.”

      Except that you haven’t connected the dots. The claim is that gay marriage directly affects you, and all you’ve done so far is say it affects some other individual, an individual that cannot even be verified in any objective way. Now, maybe it’s true that you can explain how gay marriage directly affects you, but I haven’t seen that yet.

      “It affects our religious freedom[….]”

      Really? I’m genuinely curious, then. In what way(s) has your freedom to believe in and worship your deity of choice been limited or hampered?

      “Of the 56 men who signed the Declaration of Independence, nearly half (24) held seminary or Bible school degrees.”

      This is a red herring. The point is, those men had their reasons for not establishing a specific religion, which is why you don’t see “Yahweh”, or “Jesus Christ”, or “Holy Trinity” mentioned anywhere.

      • boomslang, I must have hit a nerve. Even though I don’t agree with your thought on the subject, thank you for your opinion. God bless you.

      • “I must have hit a nerve.”

        Not at all. I was a just a witness to a few things that raised an eyebrow, so I asked for clarification(which I notice I didn’t get). All the best.

      • Boomslang, I could not help but notice that despite disagreeing with Emma’s beliefs, you seem to be “following” her. In your comments to her posts, rather than saying something that adds to the conversations, you make inflammatory comments about Christianity. You have your own blog where you are free to promote your point of view. Are you so unsatisfied with your traffic that you need to use other, more successful blogs to be heard? I’ve read your blog posts and am unimpressed by your sophistry, and yet I do not feel the urge to correct you. Why can’t you do the same with Christian blogs?

      • “I could not help but notice that despite disagreeing with Emma’s beliefs, you seem to be ‘following’ her.” ~ Larry K. Lambert

        I can see why you might think that, and while it might very well be true that many bloggers choose to visit and post exclusively on the blogs of like-minded people, I’m one of those people who’s not uncomfortable visiting, and believe it or not, even posting, where people think differently than I do. Regardless, let’s make a deal: If this blog’s owner/operator doesn’t care to hear my views because they dissent from her own(or for any other reason), how about we just let her tell me herself? ‘Fair enough?

        “In your comments to her posts, rather than saying something that adds to the conversations[…]”

        First things, first. In your opinion, is it possible to contribute something to the conversation and still disagree with what’s currently being discussed? I only ask this because I suspect that the answer’s “no”.

        “[….]you make inflammatory comments about Christianity.”

        I’d have to know specifically to what comments you refer, because, for all I know, maybe you think that any dissenting view constitutes being “inflammatory”. It’s not unheard of, after all.

        “Are you so unsatisfied with your traffic that you need to use other, more successful blogs to be heard?”

        No, sir. And BTW, I think it would be a bit hasty for you to believe that you know how much “traffic” my blog gets based solely on responses. My blog “statistics” shows me the numbers, and those numbers are pretty high, considering that I don’t even use tags.

        “I’ve read your blog posts and am unimpressed by your sophistry, and yet I do not feel the urge to correct you.”

        That’s too bad. What a great ministry tool it would be to be able to actually correct an atheist, and even if my mind was never changed, it would still look good to any Christian visitors on my site that one of their own is defending “truth”. As it stands, it just looks like you’re making excuses.

        “Why can’t you do the same with Christian blogs?”

        Simple, because, unlike you, I sometimes I do feel the urge to correct what I believe to be a mistaken view. And anyway, many(most?) Christian blogs moderate comments. IOW, if my comments were not welcomed here, doesn’t it strike you a bit odd that they made it through moderation? Maybe the blog’s owner/operator likes having a mixture of views.

  4. In Matthew 4:37 we see, “But as the days of Noah were, so likewise shall the (2nd) coming of the Son of man be.
    Study the 19th chapters of Genesis and Judges, God’s Word shows us what happens when immoral, promiscuous, un-natural sexual appetites reign, how dangerous and evil the times are.
    I find it interesting, that in both cases, homosexual sin is at the forefront of human depravity. So much so, that it is even unsafe to be alone at night in the public square.
    You see, this is not a brave new frontier that we face: it is simply history repeating itself.

  5. thank you so much for being brave enough to talk about it. i cant wait till i am as strong and deep rooted in Gods word as you are. God Bless!!

  6. Hello Emma,

    I recently subscribed to your blog and enjoy your posts and your honest, down-to-earth writing style.

    I, too, have a blog and wondered if you would be interested in exchanging guest blog posts? For the format, I was thinking Question & Answer with 4-5 questions to showcase you and your blog. The final question would be about an existing post you want to share, why you chose that one, along with a link to it. Of course, all content would be subject to your approval and agreed upon by you and I before anything was published. Then, we can turn around and do the same on your website to share my blog (probably using the same questions).

    Please visit my website at The Jesus Said Project and let me know if you are interested in doing this. (Note: On our websites, we both showcase similar quotes from Jesus about how His words are truth and life. They truly are! 🙂


    Christine The Jesus Said Project

    • Hi Christine. Thanks for following my blog! I checked yours out and it looks like a really cool project. I would definitely be interested in guest blogging and visa versa! If you want to talk details it might be easier to do it via email. Feel free to email me at

  7. Dear Emily:

    Thank you for standing for truth and decency especially when it would be far easier to avert your eyes, look the other way, and swim with the social current. Because of your faithfulness, our Father’s light is seen most profoundly in you.

    Peace be with you and yours – C.J. Sledgehammer

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